Do Unto Others

by Robert Engelbach on December 30, 2014

Jesus Preaching the Golden RuleWhile mailing holiday packages at the US post office this season, I noticed a display of greeting cards for sale. One card in particular caught my eye. On the cover it read:

“Sometimes I wonder why I put up with you.”

On the inside of the card it read:

“Oh yeah, now I remember, you put up with me!”

There were dozens of copies of each of about 50 different cards on display. A few days later I came back to the post office to mail another package and was surprised to find that this one particular card completely sold out, while all the others had hardly sold at all. This message of reciprocal acceptance is a popular part of our modern culture. It one expression of the universal principle of ethical reciprocity.

Jesus taught us a different expression of the principle of ethical reciprocity – the Golden Rule we know by heart as “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”.   As we shall see, Jesus did not originate this expression of the universal principle, but the words of Jesus as recorded in the New Testament provide a tremendous amount of depth and passion to it, perhaps more than any other source. Even so, it is wasted if all it becomes is a platitude expressed more eloquently than anywhere else.

The universal principal is also expressed in the Jewish Talmud (1) in a story about Rabbi Hillel, who also happened to be the rabbinical mentor of Apostle Paul in his earlier days. According to the story:

A Gentile came to him (Rabbi Hillel) saying that he would convert to Judaism if Hillel could teach him the whole of the Torah in the time he could stand on one foot. Rabbi Hillel replied, “What is hateful to yourself, do not do to your fellow man. That is the whole Torah; the rest is just commentary. Go and study it.” (Talmud Shabbat 31a)

Here, Rabbi Hillel has expressed The Golden Rule as what not to do, rather than what to do. Sometimes this negative form of the same rule is referred to as The Silver Rule. The complete expression of the Golden Rule by Jesus is very parallel to that in the Talmud.

“So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets. (Mathew 7:24, NIV)

Notice both Jesus and Rabbi Hillel claim this rule is the sum and total of all the meaning of the Torah. Thus, The Golden Rule is by far the most important principal of all principles. It we were to become brain damaged and could only remember one thing for the rest of our lives, the Golden Rule would be the best choice.

What is this about the Golden Rule that is so important, and how can we make it a living reality in our daily lives, and not just a platitude? Rabbi Hillel gives us a hint at the end of his advice, “Go study it (the Torah)”.

The Transcendent Benefit

While Hillel would have gone to the Old Testament, we’ll start with the New, starting with scripture that gives us more details about doing unto others, particularly what kind of others, in Luke 6:31-36 (NIV):

Treat others the same way you want them to treat you. If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them. If you do good to those who do good to you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners do the same. If you lend to those from whom you expect to receive, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners in order to receive back the same amount. But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return; and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High; for He Himself is kind to ungrateful and evil men. Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.”

This passage from the Sermon on the Mount instructs us to go beyond the normal expectations of scratching the back of those who scratch ours. “Even sinners do that”, Jesus says. But to be “sons of the Most High” we must love those who do not love us, who are not willing or able to repay the kindness.   This applies not only to difficult, sick, or selfish people in our lives, but ultimately to our arch enemies (ouch!). We are to love them and lend, expecting nothing in return. God is kind to ungrateful and evil men. As sons we are to assume that same position as God.

That last point about loving my arch enemy hit a sore spot. Not to worry, it’s just my ego aching. You see, if we are thinking about God as the all-powerful guy upstairs, it might seem unfair that we limited and vulnerable ants down here should be expected to put out as much as He; after all, we have only so much to give and then our batteries run dry and we could even die of lack if we give too much away. However, these are the thoughts of someone dwelling in the matrix of the material world, blinded by the illusion of separation from God and separation from an “other” in need.

Our revised theologies are beginning to put less emphasis on the deity upstairs and more emphasis on the divinity which has always been down here in the dirt living inside us. We were born to fulfill all the potential of that divinity. When we begin to do this we gain more and more connectedness with people who are in the role of opposing us. There is a saying “There is no enemy. There is only us in two places.”

Outside the matrix, it is perfectly natural to help ourselves help ourselves, without having to try too hard or give it a lot of thought, or having to reward one of ourselves after with a pat on the back for doing a mitzvah (good deed). “Your reward will be great”, Jesus says, not a pat on the back. The “great reward” is the experience of fulfillment through connectedness, the existential joy of flowing in the harmony and purpose of the universe, not a vain momentary delight of ego enhancement inside the matrix. This “great reward” is the “transcendent benefit” of the Golden Rule that is not explained directly in the Bible as it has come down to us, or normally elucidated from church pulpits.

So how does a Christian come to understand the “transcendent benefit”? My answer is by meditating, by practicing mindfulness, by doing yoga, by reading esoteric literature, by watching esoteric videos, and by just learning to open up and experience the transcendent. It comes by Gnosis (revelation), not ordinary knowledge. You have to Gnosis it to know it.

Gnosis evolves from the inner depths of all true spirituality. It does not come from the outer forms of any particular religion or philosophy. Sometimes examining other religious forms of the same concept can help unlock the universal inner meaning.

The Golden Rule across the World’s Religions

The following poster courtesy of Scarboro Missions (1) artfully displays versions of the Golden Rule from 13 major religions around the world. Look it over and get acquainted. You will have the opportunity to explore any one or all of these by using the link to the interactive flash presentation provided further below.

Interactive Golden Rule Chart from Buddism, Hinduism, Islam, and Judiasm

Basic Tenets of the Golden Rule

In this 12-minute video, Golden Rule activist, Paul McKenna, outlines the basic tenets of the Golden Rule and its application in our modern world. The film also comments on the visual and symbolic features of the Scarboro Missions Golden Rule poster which has achieved international renown as an educational and interfaith resource. Ideal for classrooms, youth groups and adult audiences

Interactive Flash Presentation

In this flash presentation you will be able to interactively pick out any of the 13 major religions and while you listen to pleasant background music for that religion, you will find a lot more detail about the Golden Rule, religion core concepts, and brief history.

History of the Golden Rule

This lecture by Dr. Harry Gensler S.J. chronicles the history of the Golden Rule up to the year 1900. This is one of a set of 12 lectures by Gensler and is entitled “The Golden Rule: A Moral Ideal for the World”. This 27 minute lecture examines the history of the Golden Rule and includes many religions besides the basic 13 in the Golden Rule Poster. Although some of the content is geared to Christian audiences, this exploration of the Golden Rule can benefit people of all faiths

Practicing the Perfect Principle of Reciprocity

The Universal Principle of Ethical Reciprocity is an example of the more encompassing universal principal of reciprocity which includes physical laws. For instance, in physics it applies to Newton’s law, ”To every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.” It also includes moral laws such as “karma” as in “you will reap what you sow,”

If you are up for a challenge, try reciting “Practice the Perfect Principal of Reciprocity” ten times in a row, very fast.

Whenever I attempt this, I am humbled by my limitations and reminded of the fallibility that we all share in common. Acknowledgment of fallibilities can often lead to experiencing enhanced connectedness with others; consider for example, the bonding of the nerds in a high school cafeteria. On the opposite end of the intelligence scale, “Dumb and Dumber” is another case in point.

I have discovered that any time I am seriously pissed or disappointed at someone, performing the little tongue twister jolts me out of the matrix of illusion ruled by judgment and separation, and pops me back into the reality of connectedness and unconditional love.

As an aside, if you really want to succeed in doing the hard things right; then make them so hard to the point of impossible. Then when you have practiced the impossible, even if you fail, the original task will seem like a piece of cake after that. Try doing the tongue twister with your mouth stuffed with food or ice cubes. Start off very, very slowly at first, and then speed it up very gradually. Then go back with an empty mouth and try it. By training your muscles to over-accentuate when your mouth is stuffed, you strengthen them to enunciate every vowel and consonant more clearly during normal speech.

This principle also works for anything that might throw us for a loop. I am not totally sure of this, but I think some of our most difficult struggles are like temporary trials to tune us up for better performance during routine experiences. Gnosis, for instance, often happens after encountering an extreme obstacle or dead end, when there is nowhere to go but out of the illusionary matrix.


The Golden Rule presented as an exoteric principle is a very unique phenomena, because it is a principle that makes the ego look outside the illusionary matrix of separation of self. Our attempts to do unto others may originally be motivated by an egotistical kind of altruism. But as we become more experienced in being considerate of others, we can move on to stepping inside their shoes, and eventually, with a little additional help from other areas to induce higher consciousness, we may experience a unity with the other that resonates with a greater, more fulfilling purpose. There is a tremendous difference in doing unto others out of egotistical altruism compared to becoming part of a harmony when separation of the self dissolves. The former will wear you out, the latter will turn you on.


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Joshua Tilghman December 30, 2014 at 7:26 pm


A very good explanation of the Golden Rule and how our application of it affects the greater world. I also loved the visuals and extra resources you have provided here.

You spoke briefly about karma, but I think this is also a great reason to be motivated in the Golden Rule.

“There’s a natural law of karma that vindictive people, that go out of their way to hurt other people, will end up broke and alone.” -Sylvester Stallone.

“This idea [karma] underlies all religions, and the Christian who looks for compensation in heaven, or fears punishment in hell, is holding crudely and unintelligently the truth that what we sow here we reap the result of upon entering the next stage” -Gaskell


Vernon McVety Jr. (Bro. Vern) December 31, 2014 at 3:25 pm

Great article. I have a question for you. Do you think there should be a Golden Rule amendment to the Christian version? An amendment which would be stated like this: DO RIGHTFULLY UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD HAVE THEM DO RIGHTFULLY UNTO YOU. – Bro. Vern


Robert December 31, 2014 at 8:30 pm

Brother Vern,

An interesting amendment. We would not want others to do wrongfully to us unless we are masochists. So if we do unto others, it is assumed we would give rightfully to them. Rightfully could have deeper levels than just being generous. We certainly would not give alcohol to a designated driver just because we would like others to give us, who are not driving, alcohol on New Years. So I think, doing unto others assumes we would want others to “treat us right” and benevolently, and with grace and mercy, and not spoil us so that we are enabled to become helpless, weak willed, or dangerous; therefore we should treat others the same way. Rightfully can also be misinterpreted as a mechanical, robotic way, according to a judgmental, moralistic code. People who do this can turn the Golden Rule into an excuse to be self-righteously cruel.

I think what the traditional version does not explicitly say, but points to, is that when you act toward others you are acting toward a part of yourself, with a common welfare, and that the compassion, knowledge, and skill you need to determine what is appropriate in doing unto others is acquired as higher consciousness is developed.


Vernon McVety Jr. (Bro. Vern) December 31, 2014 at 9:33 pm

Very thorough reply. I read about the need for such a possible amendment years ago in the early 80’s by a brilliant journalist/philosopher in a local newspaper, Lew Hayner, former high school teacher, columnist and Philosophy Instructor at Oakland Community College Auburn Hills campus. And later on he recanted (not publically, but personally to me) and said it really isn’t needed.

I wanted to ask you that to see how well you could make a connection with intuitional ethics, or moral intuitionism. And I’m pretty much impressed with it, especially where you state “…. I think, doing unto others assumes we would want others to “treat us right” and benevolently, and with grace and mercy….” close enough to align as a tenet of this philosophical discipline.

My own answer to the question is no, we really don’t need one because the Golden Rule as said by Jesus stands as model for our inherent moral intuition of automatically discerning what is right and wrong, rather than an empirical value to be tested and weighed. Everyone intuitively knows that righteousness IS the inner intention of doing in that precious rule. And Ethical intuitionism, as a philosophy also posits the realization that man is more than a thinker, he is an apprehender of higher grace awareness. Thanks, Robert for giving me the chance to get a little philosophical sentiment off my chest. – Bro. Vern


Vernon McVety Jr. (Bro. Vern) December 31, 2014 at 9:38 pm

Oh, I almost forgot. HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!


Robert January 3, 2015 at 12:09 pm

Brother Vern,

Happy New Year back to you. I look forward to our exchanges in 2015.

There is some ambiguity in the terms righteousness in the bible which becomes even more complicated by modern American English, which sometimes has a negative connotation related to self-righteousness. The Greek root for the word righteousness in the NT is related to “justice”. In fact, that may be the more exact meaning in Jesus’ Sermon on the Mount saying “Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness (justice), for they shall be satisfied.” But other uses in the OT and NT are often said to mean “right standing with God” which is a quality beyond justice, as part of a gift of grace. In the OT it is given to Abraham because of his faith to leave everything behind and follow his vision from the divine. In parts of the NT it is given to those who confess their sin. When we say a piece of property is rightfully yours, we mean you have legally binding ownership of it. So it is confusing to use the term rightfully in the Golden Rule.

Paul January 1, 2015 at 5:39 am

One of the best articles I’ve seen on this subject, Robert. Truly the Golden Rule captures the entire essence of the scriptures, which are all about love. Indeed love is the sum of the law of God. The born again experience is all about love. “He who loves is born of God. He who loves not is not born of God.”

Scripture tells us that we should owe no one anything but “the continuing debt to love one another.” We fall far short of this exhortation to love. This is why we pray …

… “Forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.

Excellent article. I love it!!


Robert January 3, 2015 at 6:14 pm


Thank you for the uplifting appreciation and Drash (Hebrew term for mini-sermon using interpretation of scripture, usually involving the direct meaning). A Midrash is a longer interpretation and can encompass other levels of meaning.

The principle of reciprocity as you have pointed out, covers forgiveness and love (“the love you make is equal to the love you take”…. Beatles).

What fascinates me is that besides recognizing all these variations of reciprocity as principles, there is something mystical about them that points to connectedness, not simply a kind of justice between individuals. I have to remember that when my kindness to another is not directly received or returned, that my kindness sends out ripples into the universal ocean of consciousness and finds a place to bear good fruit somewhere in it. It may also open up a channel within me to receive some form of benefit from an unanticipated source, even if it is simply the satisfaction of being consistently good regardless of consequences, of having faith and sensitivity to the All, that it is never I vain.


Jay Smith January 1, 2015 at 9:33 pm

Verily Interesting. Truly Internal Resting.
Do everything as if you were doing it for the Lord.
God the Father serves those whom serve themselves, for it serves him well to serve himself.
History. His Story.
We are His reflection in conscience, His Consciousness.


Vernon McVety Jr. (Bro. Vern) January 2, 2015 at 8:31 pm


I like your statement “We are His reflection in conscience, His Consciousness.” Which is very similar to part of the Affirmation Statement of the Unity Church: “I am an individualized expression of God.” When we live by the Golden Rule long enough we begin to realize ourselves as part of God. Thanks.


Jay Smith January 6, 2015 at 10:54 pm


We do not become gods. God, Becomes us. By desire. Ask, Consciously, from the conscience. In the heart. The seat of life. The beginning point. The still, small, but great voice. Found only in the stilling of the mind by meditation in the internal garden of knowing. As All Prophets have expounded for millennia. May His peace be upon and within you.

Many will hear the messengers. Few will understand. Fewer will follow. Fewer yet will seek. The One, will find.

Note To Joshua

Continue Brother. Many have an Ear and desire to hear. Love to you and yours and to all.



Vernon McVety Jr. (Bro. Vern) January 8, 2015 at 11:34 pm


Please go back and read that little compliment over again. The message is simply that God is already within us. And we realize this the more we live for him. – Bro. Vern


Jay January 12, 2015 at 7:01 pm


I agree. Whole-heartedly.

Sin-cere-ly. J

Robert January 3, 2015 at 6:30 pm


I appreciate your interest. It took me awhile to realize your comment is poetic. Interesting = Inte(rnal)resting. History = His Story. I don’t know the names of the various poetic constructions you have used. I think you are tapping into the mind’s aesthetic/intuitive nature to convey a message that is fuller than it may seem at first glance. Inter resting.


Jay Smith January 6, 2015 at 10:41 pm


That came (in the) Spirit, to post, after reading your gnosis.



Raymond Phelan January 3, 2015 at 7:40 am


This is truly one of the classic articles on SOS. I just love your detailed compilation and humorous analogies to qualify the Golden Rule. You’re humor helps greatly to untangle some knotty points that need the simplified approach.

The article is so packed with practical wisdom which can be applied daily in our lives leading toward Higher or Christ consciousness awakening (stimulated by Kundalini flow to the brain). The laws of Present Moment awareness are already within us as soul nature. If I may suggest as a practice while out and about, that, we use the five senses to localize our immediate environment. In other words, hear what we hear, see what we see but, without thinking about what we hear and see. Practice this regularly for about twenty minutes daily thereby we should automatically find the soul in divine alignment expressing the Golden Rule or Divine Will with whomever, and in whatever situations, naturally.

Thank you so much, Robert, for this brilliant article! It so resonates with the Truth within.

Happy new year to all!




Vernon McVety Jr. (Bro. Vern) January 3, 2015 at 2:37 pm

Thanks for another line of reasoning which again corroborates my own stand against such an amendment.


Robert January 5, 2015 at 11:42 am


Thank you for your generous compliments. It means a lot to me coming from you. I will certainly practice “hear what we hear, see what we see but, without thinking Backwhat we hear and see” for 20 minutes each day and let you know what happens. Also I look forward to your future comments and posts.

Blessing Back


Vinícius Otaviano July 19, 2017 at 10:57 am

Excellent article Robert! As a gamer, I’m well-aware that sometimes we cannot move to the next stage without dying a few times first, until you get the handle of the stage and find the best way to overcome your obstacles. I find it that playing videogames is an excellent tool to reinforce this inner teaching. The Golden Rule is crystal clear to some of us, I wish it were printed in every corner, every outdoor, because it’s damn obvious! Not to mention the fact that all lines of religion instruct us to do so, one more evidence that we are more connected than some people wish to believe.


Vinícius Otaviano July 19, 2017 at 11:01 am

Excellent article Robert! As a gamer, I’m well-aware that sometimes we cannot move to the next stage without dying a few times first, until you get the handle of the stage and find the best way to overcome your obstacles. I find it that playing videogames is an excellent tool to reinforce this inner teaching. The Golden Rule is crystal clear to some of us, I wish it were printed in every corner, every outdoor, because it’s damn obvious! Not to mention the fact that all lines of religion instruct us to do so, one more evidence that we are more connected than some people wish to believe…


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